My People

for those seeking answers

"There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not in my nature." – Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey.

Last week I was talking to my sister about how I felt as if I was alone and had no real friends. In the sense that I didn’t have someone who sought me out because they wanted to spend time with me or simply because they wanted to hang out. Those around me only sought my company when they wanted help with an academic or personal problem.

I’m pretty sure that I’m not the only one who feels like this and if you can relate, you’ll understand why I feel the way I feel.

You want to know what she said to me? She said: "Ciana, the thing is that your way if thinking, and your level of maturity, is not to the par. Everyone needs to find their group of people – everyone has their group of people. It just means that you have yet to find your people."

And let me tell you something, that resonated with me. Not because I want to brag or talk highly about myself, but because although I know that I have not found my people, sometimes it slips my mind.

It slips my mind since it’s very easy to just think that you are the weird one of the bunch. It’s easy to tell yourself over and over again that you are the one at fault; after all, every one else gets along except you. It’s when I start thinking that way and more, that I start to spiral down into a very dark place.

For anyone out there seeking answers as to why you aren’t enough (just like me), I’m here to remind you about something: You are amazing and unique! And just like my sister reminded me, you have yet to find your people!

After that conversation, I started to repeat it in my head again and again. Because you want to know what I started to think?! What if I never find my people? The world is so big and is full with people, so how will I find my people?

The answer is simple, just be yourself and you will attract your people. No one ever meets every single person in the world, but those that we do meet, and are going to meet, will be in our lives in some way. Even if just for a fleeting moment, they could be your people. So by staying true to who you are, you’ll bring them in.

You don’t need to wish for thousands pennies when you could have five five-hundred. My people will come, just like your people will come – even if you’ve already found them, there are still so many you have yet to encounter.

My #somethingdifferent of the day is to say "I love you" to the people who really mean the most. They might not be my people, but they are important in my life.

What will be your #somethingdifferent?

– Ciana Isabel